Christian Counseling

This isn’t the God you thought you knew.

You used to believe in God, but now you’re not so sure. Too many bad things have happened.

You don’t know anymore if God can be trusted. But then, relying on yourself hasn’t worked out the way you thought it would, either.

So, you lie awake, going over the options in your mind.

If it’s not God’s way or your way, what’s left?

This isn’t the life you planned.

You’ve started praying again. You’re desperate for help.

He wants out of the marriage. How did you not see this coming?

The black cloud confirms your worst fear: You’re not good enough. Not loveable. In the darkness, you cry out, “Where are you, God?”

You found drugs in your son’s room. Again. This time you dared to kick him out.

But the radio silence on his end is heart-breaking. Did you do the right thing? Will he come to his senses before it’s too late? Is he in jail? On the streets?

Your heart aches for answers. But there are none.

But it is the life you have.

Life takes us places we never planned to go, challenging the very foundation of our beliefs.

I’ve been there. For a decade, my life careened down some pretty, dark roads.

As a Christian, I never thought I’d be a frequent flyer to hell and back. Divorce. Single parenting nightmares. Rebelliousness. Addiction. Homelessness. Mental disorders. Arrests. Injustice.

But God was in it all, using the flames to forge some strong dependence on Him. I would not trade any of it for the person God has made me and the relationships I now enjoy.

What you choose matters.

How you treat yourself during hard times will shape the person you become.

You can’t control what happens to you. What you do with it is another story. You can let it make you bitter or make you better. The one you choose is what counts.

You can fearfully force your way through it or learn to trust God’s goodness. The choice is to act like you have all the answers or live as a learner.

You can resist change or become resilient because of it. It’s a question of living in “if only” moments where you dream of happiness or enjoy the life you have today.

You can strive to be perfect or find God in the middle of making mistakes. Now is the time when you decide to either surrender to a divine plan or pine away, longing for fulfillment and perfection.

You can develop a sincere love for yourself or keep beating yourself up for your failures.

Your story is still unfolding.

You don’t know yet all you’re meant to be. But there is One who does. The “Wonderful Counselor” keeps things simple.

There is nothing you need to figure out other than how to keep your focus on Christ. There are no doctrines you must submit to other than to trust that God will guide you.

What matters most is being as honest and as vulnerable with yourself in God’s presence as you can be.

You get to take the journey as it comes. One step at a time. The questions and concerns that arise within you will lead you forward.

The quality of our relationship with God determines our happiness.

What lies ahead is not a lifetime of getting what you want when you want it.

It is rather a lifetime of learning how to listen, let go of control (that you never had anyway), and lean into a divine plan, full of unexpected blessings and joy.

The process transforms you. You become indestructible.

Everything belongs.

To see and accept yourself as completely loved by God, in life’s messiness, is the surprising way you learn to handle your brokenness.

You don’t have to be better than you are. You just need to come, listen, trust, and follow. God takes it from there.

The life you develop from living your way through difficulties with God is so rewarding that you’d choose it over any fresh-off-the-rack life you thought you wanted.

Experience the difference.

This is about your unique journey. I won’t tell you what you should do. I don’t use shame and blame.

My role is to do my best to meet you where you currently are because that is where God has always met me.

The goal is to move from a self-centered way of seeing to a God-centered one, so you can picture a bigger life, the one you’re meant to have. Because the life you thought you wanted was way too small.

The gospel is meant to do so much more than “save” you.

Call today at (630) 999-8151 for help healing your past, enjoying your present, and figuring out your next step. And the one after that…