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Dealing with the Fears that Arise During Uncertainty

By the fifth time you check the news and hear nothing new, ask yourself: Am I getting any added value out of being absorbed with these thoughts and feelings? To change that pattern, try these: (Let Be) Can you be with the worry and observe it from a place of...

Finding Peace

I often help clients who are sorting through the pros and cons of a difficult decision. Should they take the job or not? File for divorce or not? Change careers or not? Pay for private school or not? While it’s good to be thoughtful about such choices, a problem...

Healing Negative Emotions

First, the Bad News We have a love/hate relationship with our emotions. We love them when we’re happy, excited, or feeling loved. We hate them when we’re mad at ourselves, or we’re feeling rejected or lonely. Those negative emotions are what bring people to my office....

Questions You Can Ask to Get your Life Unstuck

As part of a client’s therapy, I always ask him/her, “What do you hope to accomplish with our time together?” Kudos to the recent client who answered, “I want to stop feeling so afraid all the time,” Wouldn’t we all? We may couch it in softer terms and say we’re...

Stop Believing Everything You Tell Yourself

The older I get, the more finely tuned my BS meter becomes. That’s a good thing for a counselor. I’ve learned to question it when someone tells me they aren’t drinking any more or that the bruises they’ve received were from an accident.  I trust my gut to look for...